In this power episode, Dr. Lyman explains how "Mirror Exercise" will help you in speaking with other people and how will you do it confidently without being conscious about yourself, your voice, and how the way you speak.
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Hello. Welcome back to another training. I am Dr. Lyman Montgomery, founder, and creator of the 30-day speaker's life activation system. One of the questions that oftentimes I'm asked is, Lyman I don't like my voice. I get it, I understand. I felt the same way for years. I felt that my Southern draw was a hindrance until I realized that there were a number of people who loved my Southern draw. Spent a lot of summers, almost saying summers in Alabama, but that's okay. Understand that you have to be comfortable with your voice. Now there are skills, there are tools, and I will go over some of these that help strengthen your voice and how to breathe so you're less main zone. And one of the things that I want you to do, because I believe that in order to activate your speaking voice, you have to practice and do drills. And think of me, and this training has your drill Sergeant. So let's get at it. What I want you to do is stand in front of a mirror. Go ahead, stand in front of a mirror and ask yourself three questions.
Question number one and say your name as an example; I would stand in front of a mirror, look at myself, and say, Lyman, tell me three things that you love about your voice. I would think about it. And I would say three things I love about my voice. Number one, my voice is unique. It is uniquely, me. It is my signature. It is my identifier. The second thing I love about my voice is that I love that I have the ability to modulate my voice. I've learned to train my train, my voice, to go higher and lower. But most of the time, I speak how the way I sound Southern draw and on. And the third thing that I love about my voice is that I have a voice.
You see so many people in the world who don't have a voice. I mean, physically, they have a voice, but they feel as if they do not have a voice or anything to say. And that is a true tragedy because I believe everyone has significance and everyone has something to say. And my job is to help you to find your unique voice because your unique voice will resonate with the right person. So here's a quick story. Most of us if you are a speaker, probably heard of the legendary speaker trainer, perhaps one of the best storytellers that ever lived, in my personal humble opinion, Zig Ziglar. But unfortunately, many people, including myself, were not fans of Zig Ziglar's voice. I felt that it was twangy. It was country, but I was captivated at how he could tell a story. He owned his voice twang and all he owned it.
Own your voice. So stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself three things I love about my voice, question number one. Question number two, ask yourself what are at least three things other people love about my voice. So if I was standing in front of a mirror and I would say, Lyman, what are three things other people love about your voice? And this is the feedback that I have received. I've heard people say, Lyman, I love the way that you are able to connect with your voice, you know, when to lower your voice, when to raise your voice and at times, it can be overpowering and I love that you can project your voice. What do others love about your voice? Maybe you have a very calming voice, and others will say, wow when I hear the sound of your voice, it brings peace. It has a calm effect. Others may say, when I hear your voice, I get inspired. You have the voice of a coach to push me without breaking me. And maybe others will say you have a voice of an angel because your voice brings comfort.
I have a good friend. And when I speak with my good friend, one of the things that I always loved about her voice, you could be agitated you can be upset, and just the sound of her voice relaxes. She has a very soothing, very calm voice. So question number one. What are three things that you love about your voice? Question number two, what are at least three things that people, family, friends, and colleagues love about your voice? And the final question is if you had to choose on a scale of one to five, with the absolute lowest score being average. So one being average and five being a rock star, how would you rate your voice? Number one, average number five, a rock star. I don't know. You see for me, Lyman, on a scale of one to five, with one being average and five being a rock star, how would you rate your voice? You see a little story here because I didn't learn to speak when I was eight years old and spent many years in speech therapy. If you had asked me that question as a kid, I probably would have said a one, a negative one, but because I have seen the power of my voice to bring about transformation and change in people's lives, I would rate my voice, that of a rock star. Not for ego. Not that there isn't room to improve. Yes, but because I get to choose, I might as well choose a five.
If you don't choose a five, that is okay. But ask yourself those three fundamental questions in front of a mirror. This is a conversation with you. Lyman, what do you love about your voice? Lyman, what do others love about your voice and Lyman on a scale of one to five, with one just being average and five being a rock star, how would you rate your voice? Do that exercise. And then I want you to go and find someone and ask them, a family, a friend, a colleague, and just simply ask them; I am doing this exercise. And I'm just curious, what do you like and enjoy about my voice? If you had never met me and all you knew about me were the only conversations we had on the telephone, you never saw my face. What do you enjoy about my voice? You would be surprised. You may think that your voice is not good, it's quirky, it's nasal you may not even love your voice and others absolutely enjoy hearing your voice. Why? Because you have a voice and when you tap into your voice, others are waiting for you to say something so that they can listen, be inspired, be motivated, learn from you, and for you take them on a journey with your words, I will see you in the next training.